Sunday, September 11, 2016

How Does The Baby Affect Where You Live?

Posted by theboat On September 11, 2016 1 comment


Another impact I hadn't fully thought through before having a baby is what effects that would have on where I live...


My wife and I packed up and moved quite often pre-baby. I'm probably missing some, but off the top of my head:

Me:
2004 - moved within the same city
2005 - moved to a different city for a job
2005 - moved to a different city for school

Wife:
2005 - moved to the US for school
2005 - moved within the same city
2005 - moved within the same city
2006 - moved to a different state for a different school
2006 - moved within the same city
2006 - moved within the same city
2006 - moved within the same city
2007 - moved within the same city
2007 - moved in with me

Together:
2010 - moved to a different state for a job
2012 - moved to a different state for a job
2014 - moved within the same city (bought a house)
2015 - moved within the same city (sold a house)

So between us, that's 16 moves in 11 years spanning two continents and four states in the US.

Moving Criteria Pre-Baby

  • Is the cost of living to salary ratio ok?
  • Can we tolerate the area?
  • Does one of us have a job lined up there that pays well enough?
  • Are there jobs that the other can get nearby?

 Moving Criteria Post-Baby

  • Is the cost of living to salary ratio ok?
  • Can we tolerate the area?
  • Does one of us have a job lined up there that pays well enough?
  • Are there jobs that the other can get nearby?
  • How are the school districts near work?
  • How are the daycares near work?
  • Are the job's hours compatible with daycare?
  • Will the area fare well enough with global warming that he'll be able to visit us there when we're retired?
  • How is the community as far as extra-curriculars are concerned for him (e.g., are there martial arts schools near work)?
  • Are the public colleges in that state good enough?
  • If an apartment, is it one that works well for a baby?
  • Is the location ideal for physical development (e.g., >300 meters from any major roads)?
  • What will the commute to school be like if there's no bus access?

Sample Questions I'm Not Sure How To Answer About Moving With A Baby

  • How do we move all of his stuff? Previously we'd just throw away everything that wasn't easily moveable. We've added a lot more baby stuff.
  • What do you actually do with him while moving? I guess we just have to hire movers at this point? Within city, maybe we just move during the day while he's at daycare?
  • How disruptive will it be to move while he's in school? My mom moved something like 10 times growing up, including two overseas moves, and I've not been able to figure out how much that affected her.  
  • What actually matters in schools? My gut has generally been that extremely high intelligence means that you'll succeed regardless of school while average or below intelligence means that you won't excel and be invested in at a top school, so it doesn't really matter if you go to an average school. That's most likely just a rationalization, but I can't actually figure out if school quality matters and can't find great research on it.

How Do We Manage It? 

We haven't actually figured it out yet and the prospects of moving are more stressful now than before. I see us moving less often going forward. Anyone have advice or experience doing this?

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